23 Nov, 2024
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“Why do women get postpartum depression anyway? I mean, they have a baby…

“Why do women get postpartum depression anyway? I mean, they have a baby now!”“Why do women need maternity leave? They can bond with the baby after work”Umm idk because there is a giant tear running from their vag to their butthole and they’re cramping and bleeding for several weeks while their uterus contracts back down from 800 times its normal size and they can’t take a shit and hemeroids and urinary catheters because their ripped up vulva is too swollen to pee through and cracked, bleeding nipples, and a crying infant that needs to feed from said cracked nipples 12 times a day and needs its diaper changed about that much too.Do people not get that childbirth is horrifying? Like, just…

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I’ve always heard about how pregnancy and childbirth “ruins” a woman’s body from the man’s…

I’ve always heard about how pregnancy and childbirth “ruins” a woman’s body from the man’s perspective. How she gets stretch marks, pregnancy weight, saggy boobs, and a “loose” vagina. It leads you to believe that the worst thing about pregnancy and childbirth are these shallow things and that these shallow things matter at all. I do feel like my body is ruined by pregnancy. Because I am 38 weeks pregnant and completely disabled with a pregnancy related vascular condition. I’m laying here on my side. I can’t sit up straight for very long even. I’m in pain.20{7920e18cf5186565893a18d1f69fa52bf2806dc683a7bfcea51d671d2f7d8125} of pregnancies are so disabling they result in bedrest. Nearly a third end in a serious surgical intervention–the cesarean section–requiring a long healing time. Yet, there is no …

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I love being a mom! Having a horrible 3rd trimester has made new parenthood seem like a breeze. I…

I love being a mom! Having a horrible 3rd trimester has made new parenthood seem like a breeze. I was warned several times that being a new parent is incredibly hard. When I explained how pregnancy had become disabling, a few people responded by telling me I should “enjoy” my pregnancy while I could because being a new parent would be so much harder. Well, toward the end of my pregnancy I was already only getting 3 hours of sleep per night and hardly leaving the house, but now instead of it being because of pain, it’s because I have to take care of this cute lil bundle! Vast improvement if you ask me!I think again I was dealing with a preference for the male …

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maisukii: A reminder that trans people do not need to look a certain way to be trans you can be a…

maisukii: A reminder that trans people do not need to look a certain way to be trans you can be a man and wear dresses and makeup you can be a woman and be a weightlifter or have facial hair you can be nonbinary and not be “androgynous” your outward appearance does not determine how “trans” you are, Having started your transition or not does not matter. You define who you are.

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blackbrownandpink: Happy trans day of visibility! I’m posting…

blackbrownandpink: Happy trans day of visibility! I’m posting this because I always feel a little guilt about the fact that I don’t look #transenough, and feel like eurocentric beauty standards and definitions of ‘woman’ and ‘feminine’ have poisoned me in too many ways to count.  I write for those of us who struggle to keep from literally carving the vision of ourselves we see in the mirror out of us/ I write for the silence after someone yells ‘hey tr**ny’ when we’re talking in the streets, and no one speaks up to tell them they’re wrong/ I write for those of us who have leaped over every hurdle put in front of them, but are covered in bruises and scars from falling on the hurdles inside of…