How your ship comes in
~Your ship comes in over calm seas.
When you feel like something important is missing in your life, and go into the wanting,
and the not-having, and the questioning of why it’s not there, and all your old beliefs
from your core wound start to play out in this arena and all of the others…
It’s important to remember this.
And btw, you KNOW i am not some law of attraction groupie spouting new age crap.
I hope you know that.
Life is way more complicated, though I know for sure we play a part in creating with life.
And our beliefs that run deep along with our emotional energy are big players.
things tend to jam up. We know it, we’ve seen it. The more we want it, the more elusive
it can feel.
And then that channel of belief, thinking we can create in this particular way…
gets really stuck. We keep repeating the not-having, we repeat the familiar emotional states,
we repeat the long ago beliefs that played out in our earlier life.
Think about when the very best things happened for you.
It’s likely you weren’t in that scrunched up ball of frustration and distress of wishing and hoping.
It’s a good bet, that when you shifted focus and were in your life in an easy way, doing your thing, and probably in a lighter moment, that something surprised you and showed up.
Something really good happened for me not long ago.
And I was curious about what the day was like when it showed up.
And this is sort of funny, but again it was about the energy signature I was in at the time.
I had been trying to get a medical insurance thing taken care of and it was HELLISH.
I thought i was going to go crazy trying to figure it out and resolve it.
And all the dread, and also the difficulty of talking on the phone with my voice in recovery
and still impaired etc.
But that day, I went over in person to meet with the insurer.
And It was so wonderful!!
The rep totally figured things out with me, easily, it didn’t matter that my voice was raspy,
it didn’t matter that I had been overwhelmed and clueless about the choices. She knew what to do,
we got it done and when I left.. and I”m not exaggerating…
I felt triumphant. *seriously*..
I felt so light, so happy, so resolved.. the heavy worry of energy and deadlines
and penalties and fears that had been with me around this thing… gone.
I felt so so good and was so grateful for the competence and kindness of the woman
who sorted it out with me.
And shortly after, that afternoon. The ‘good thing’ came to me.
I remember the feeling. Bright, light, relieved, grateful, empowered, relieved..
I think grateful probably was the biggest.
Thank you thank you for this woman who just took care of it and made my worry go away.. poof.
And I love thinking of other things like that.
The time I got an amazing new client, ‘out of the blue’ when I was at the airport about to go on vacation.
I was so relaxed, sitting in the terminal (this was awhile ago :))
so excited to study again in person with one of my favorite teachers,
and the email inquiry came in, and because i had time and the new prospective client had time,
we hopped on the phone and when I hung up, she’d paid for my signature program, it was in my account, and off I went to a 4 day seminar with Caroline Myss in Canada.
With a chunk of new money in my account.
There are lots of other examples that are similar.
And you have your own.
The best things find us when we are receptive.
When the energy is not so sticky, when we aren’t hyper
focused on something that isn’t here yet.
When we can appreciate and enjoy where we are in the moment
even when it’s not perfect, even when we have our complicated feelings
and preferences and life challenges and the rest.
The being able to still find some peace and that calm… to be able to quiet the storm,
to quiet the nervous system, to not get hijacked by our emotional patterns and our
repetitive thoughts, and the chemicals we run from it all…. make a big difference.
Your ship(s) really do come in over calmer seas.
And trust me, this is a practice..
a progress not perfection practice.
Don’t go into any idea of perfection.
Just in any moment, see where you can smooth yourself
out a bit. Yes using the breath is essential.
Yes, tuning into your body and softening what is there is essential.
My clients make fun of me b/c i talk about ‘softening’ so so much.
And yet I’ve found no better word for it.
Softening sounds like what it is… breathe in breathe out and soffffttttennnnn.
Ahh. you can do this.
And you will over and over and over again.
And… you will feel better.
Oh yes you will.
And you may even see something shift that you’ve
been waiting for what seems like for EVER.
Calm seas. You are the ocean.
Not every second… you will have stormy seas.
But you will remember that when you can quiet
the focus a bit, quiet the body and the thoughts, there is
And.. I can show you how.
Can work with you through all of the moments and relationships which
make your waters churn and froth.
It takes a lot of focus,
A dose of willingness.
The right support from somebody who has done it, and whose
clients have done it and made the changes, powerfully.
Can you remember a time when this was true for you?
Look back and see if you can find your own proof of
Really most of what I offer from individual coaching, to my Wednesday women’s group,
to my digital self-guided programs… focus on how to calm the waters.
How to fill yourself up and make up for the self-soothing that you
haven’t been able to master… YET.
You might love my gorgeous digital retreat program You Are The Temple, that is filled with every
beautiful ritual and practice I recommend to my clients to feel better, all sorts of
solutions and strategies to still the waters. And it’s beautifully laid out, even
more gorgeous when you print it out in binder form to keep close. Read more and
the rave reviews from some pretty wonderful women here. You will use some of these forever,
once you find your favorites.. or try one a week. Or create a weekend retreat for you or maybe with your bestie. You will love it. And if you buy it, and you email me, I will help you figure out how to best get
started in a way that’s right for you. A little coaching.. on me.. it’s almost my birthday so…
OR.. if you are struggling with emotional eating… I have something pretty new.–
40 Days~Breaking The Spell of Emotional Eating,
a real compilation of my work in this arena that I am known for..
The pain of emotional eating, or binges, or body hate, or
food wars… all of it so painfully demoralizing. And sometimes you want something you can just do on your own, don’t feel like trying coaching anymore, or want a jump start… or want to try something new.
Because you don’t have an eating problem, you have more of a thoughts+beliefs problem.
A mistaken identity problem.
And I have put my legacy around this painful issue into these pages.
And they will help.
Plus even at the basic program, you still get private email coaching with me.
At the higher price point. you get 3 full private coaching sessions for the very very
lowest price I have ever offered for individual work.
It’s spring. a time to plant new seeds to create new outcomes, new growth,
new beauty… I’d love to help.
My love to you, in the rough chop and in the quiet and calm. xo
